How to Provide Support?

As a friend or loved one helping a man with Depression in your life, providing support for a man with Depression requires a great deal of encouragement, empathy and understanding. Having family, friends and loved ones by his side can mean a lot to him, showing him that he's not in this alone. 

Many men write off symptoms of Depression, unaware that they are signs of Depression in the first place. The first step is to spot and address the signs of symptoms for men to get started on the road to recovery. Know that your support can influence him to confront the issue.

Read on for tips on starting the conversation for men to be On The Mend!


SPOT

  • Recognize the symptoms.
  • Do not be too quick to write off signs and symptoms you notice.
  • Physical, emotional and behavioural symptoms that last two weeks or more are likely to be signs of Depression.

TALK + LISTEN = the mending conversation 

Tips on how to start the conversation: 

  1. It worries me to hear you talking like this, shall we talk to someone about this?
  2. I've noticed that you haven't been acting like yourself lately. Are you okay?
  3. I've noticed you're (sleeping more, eating less, etc.), is everything okay today?
  4. How's it going bro? You look like you've lost a lot of weight!
  5. Would you like to see the school counsellor or a GP?
  6. I think the school counsellor may be able to help you. Do you want to see the counsellor together?
 
  • Do not force them to seek help if they do not feel comfortable seeing a professional healthcare provider at that point of time.
  • Be careful not to put too much pressure on them as it could put them off getting help.
  • Be patient and remain supportive by offering help and suggestions when asked.

24-hour helplines:
IMH Mental Health Helpline: 6389-2222
Samaritans of Singapore (SOS): 1800-221-4444  

In case of an emergency:
Please visit the nearest hospital emergency room or call 999 or 995


MAINTENANCE 

√ Ask how he is doing

√ Ask him how he's feeling

√ Give words of encouragement

√ Jio a bro to study together

√ Jio a bro to go exercise

√ Be there, as a pillar of support